Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
The last one is a killer and very important.
this is extremely important tw #abuse
No longer walking on eggshells and being able to be completely me has been an amazing transition in my life.
PLEASE! YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW IMPORTANT THIS IS TO ME AND A MULTITUDE OF MY FRIENDS. I GET DISCOURAGEDALL-THE-TIME ABOUT MY ART BECAUSE I GET LITTLE TO NO RECOGNITION. SO I BEG YOU, IF YOU LIKE SOMETHING, PLEASE MAKE IT KNOWN. LEAVE A COMMENT, REBLOG IT TO SEVERAL PLACES, SHOW YOUR FRIENDS! IF YOU HELP BUILD AN ARTISTS CONFIDENCE, THEIR CREATIVITYWILL KNOW NO BOUNDS.
No seriously this is an actual problem I have. Like when no one seems to notice my art after I’ve worked for days on it, it honestly really hurts. So seriously if you like someones art make it known. It helps us so so much
A thing I may or may not participate in, but definitely want as many people to try as possible. A big problem for asexual geeks (and grey-a’s, demisexuals, and other people on the spectrum) is the lack of representation we get in the fandoms that we spend most of our time participating in. To this, I say let’s take our favorite characters and mold them to reflect us.
Participate in this challenge in any way you want on Asexual Awareness Week (Oct 26 - Nov 1). Edits, gifs, fanart, fanfiction, fanmixes, just copy-pasting this and listing them out one by one, literally in any way you contribute to the fandom on a day to day basis.
Day 1: A male character you see as asexual. Day 2: A female character you see as asexual. Day 3: A character you see as grey-a or demisexual. Day 4: A ship you would like to see as an asexual one. Day 5: A male character you see as aromantic. Day 6: A female character you see as aromantic. Day 7: A ship you would like to see as a platonic one.
Reblog this to spread awareness, please, and tag your edits/whatever as ‘aawfc’. I’m gonna be tracking the tag and reblogging a ton of them for the fandoms I’m in. And I have a ton of ace followers who will probably love to do the same.